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ItalianoWhat Type Of Submissives are you?
| 1. Service Sub This kind of sub mostly performs domestic duties and spends most of their time cleaning, cooking, and doing chores. You could say that a service sub fulfills the role of a maid or a butler. A service sub enjoys helping their doms without needing to be ordered. They take enjoyment not only from people-pleasing and serving others but also from being corrected when they make a mistake. Their needs are met when they’re able to make their partner’s life easier. At their core, someone who chooses to become a service sub wants to be useful. Usefulness and taking care of their play partners are part of their submission. This kind of submission doesn’t revolve around scenes – it’s a whole lifestyle. Subs can play a variety of roles, and a service sub is rarely only a household duties sub. More often than not, they also fulfill their dom’s sexual or emotional needs, unless the dominant has more than one sub. 2. Slave A beginner sub shouldn’t even consider adopting this role. The depth of submission required in this dynamic makes it easy to abuse by someone controlling who’s posing as a dom. As with all kinds of BDSM, everyone involved should know exactly what they are getting into. The Master/slave dynamic is only for experienced practitioners who are already familiar with what TPE (total power exchange) looks like and are aware of what it entails. Among all types of submissives, a slave gives up the most control. They enjoy giving full control of some or all of their daily lives to their dominant partner and being dependent on them for everything. Still, not all aspects of a slave’s life are always included in the 24/7 dynamic. Depending on the person, there might be things that they need to handle on their own. This specific power exchange dynamic often includes a contract defining what parts of a submissive’s life are under the control of their partner and what freedoms they require. 3. Masochist This is the best-known type of submissive among non-practitioners, even though it’s one of the most complex. A little bit of pain can make pleasure more intense even in vanilla interactions, but a masochist enjoys different levels of pain. A masochist might enjoy things such as impact play with floggers and crops, bondage, humiliation, edge play, and so on. The possibility of serious injuries makes these practices risky, but the role of a masochist is delicate on an emotional and mental level as well. This kind of submission involves knowing yourself very well. The need for pain and other aspects of masochism is rooted in the high the sub experiences from their body’s physiological response to pain and how that affects them mentally and emotionally. Frequently, this allows the sub to live in the moment, separate from everyday troubles, and find freedom in it. For this reason, masochists often don’t enjoy other aspects of submission. They’re only submissive in the bedroom or during a play session, finding their needs fulfilled already. 4. Brat This is the most common role for new bottoms just starting out with BDSM. A brat is playful, cheeky, and pushes their dominant to get attention and earn punishment. They like strength and want to be overpowered. This kind of sub needs a partner who can take control and put them in their place as a way of fulfilling their needs. They enjoy rough play. This kind of sub purposely misbehaves or acts bratty to provoke their partner into dominating them. A brat pushes back and resists the dominant to feel that the dominant deserves submission. To a dom, a brat can be one of the most challenging of the subtypes and requires a great deal of patience. The type of dom who enjoys playing with brats is called a brat tamer. Both the brat and the brat tamer derive pleasure from the fighting and the final act of submission. A subcategory of brats called smart-assed masochists uses verbal provocation rather than other behaviors to incite their dom into giving them what they need. 5. Little The daddy dom/little girl type of relationship has made this kind of dynamic well known. The dominant takes the role of the caretaker, and the submissive takes the role of the little. It’s not limited to a male dom and a female sub or heterosexual relationships. This dynamic doesn’t always involve age play (acting younger or older than their real age), but it may. Some littles don’t pretend to be a child, but they take on childish aspects that they include in their behavior and the relationship. The dom acts in an older caregiver role. This dynamic can include anything from assuring the sub that she is a good girl to discipline when the little misbehaves. This dynamic can be completely non-sexual, or sex can be involved. A submissive in the role of little enjoys feeling nurtured and momentarily forgetting the stress of adult life in order to enjoy simple, childlike pleasures. Some littles want nothing more than to be cuddled and taken care of. A BDSM scene littles engage in often involves playing, dressing up, and activities that children would enjoy. This kind of sub is a good fit for a more tender and kind dominant who enjoys taking care of their sub. 6. Pet Somewhat similar to littles, some subs enjoy taking on the role of a pet, with their dom being their owner and caretaker. Pet play most commonly includes kittens, puppies, and ponies as personas that subs adopt. This dynamic is not considered roleplaying – a pet embodies their chosen animal and enters a submissive headspace known as pet space. Submissives who engage in pet play might take pleasure in the dehumanization and exhibitionism that this kind of dynamic involves and the mindless freedom from responsibility it brings. Which One Are You? |